  Sunday night Dezi and I had been asked to talk at River. River is the youth's contemporary worship service that they have once a month. The theme was spiritual journeys and since we had recently become engaged, they wanted us to speak about our experience with getting engaged and everything. We worked on it and came up with a couple of points that we wanted to leave with the kids. They all sound pretty simple, but they are deceptively complicated. Traits to look for in a serious relationship They should make you happy; That does not mean they should make your parents happy or your friends happy. Or that you should be happy because of the status dating them gives you. You should trust them completely They should be your equal; Challenge you to be better and make you want to be better. Hopefully their strengths compliment your weaknesses. Probably hardest of all: You must be a whole person before you can give yourself completely to anyone else; We talked about how we had to be happy with ourselves before we could be happy with someone else. 
