  I never noticed this before, it's a great and very long article by Dr. William Sears. He tells of his transformation as a father between his first few kids and his eighth. It's a wonderful story. urlLink FATHERING :"...My eight children are training me to be a better person and father—because I'm there for them. Attachment fathering pays off; in disciplining children, we become disciplined persons..." "...remember, you are bringing up someone else's future husband or wife, mother or father. The attitudes you instill in your baby and child are the building blocks for that adult person. Children learn by example. The best way to build character is to model the qualities you want to see in your children. I found it helpful to list those qualities that I wanted to model for my children. When I made such a list, I realized that there were flaws in the model I presented to my children. I couldn't model what I didn't do. As I went down the list of values and related these to an average day with my children, I realized how often I didn't reflect these attitudes myself..." 
