  What I Don't Understand Could clearly fill a book, but here's one that has stumped me for ages. If I say to someone "I am going to call you tonight at 8:00" and I forget, I am all apologies. That's my word. If I say, "I am taking Grandpa's present over tonight," I do it! When I say, "Let me see what I can do," I see what I can do. And when I don't, because I am NOT PERFECT, I apologize. I realize that other people depend on me. I realize that people make plans based on what I tell them. I realize that when I cancel or pull a no-show, I am screwing up other people's days/nights. And no, maybe its not significant. And maybe most of the time they don't care, but sometimes it is, and sometimes they do. I can't imagine caring so little for other people's plans and lives and being so self involved that my slightest inclination to not do something takes precedent over the disapointment of others. Now, I realize that every single one of us has to change plans sometimes. But I know people who do this shit all the time. My mother breaks her plans with my grandparen't nine times out of the ten time's I hear that she's made them.
When I was home for Christmas, I saw her one time. ONCE. On Christmas day. The other two plans we had she cancelled- one to see her boyfriend, who is so despised that he isn't welcome to family gatherings, and once to go to a party. A PARTY. I'm home for 5 days, and she goes to a party. Bullshit. And I know other people who are likely change plans but have realized their tendency and at least have learned not to make plans. These are the people who will say things like, "I'm not sure, let me see what's going on that day" etc.
I respect that, truly. Even these people, though, need to recognize that when they make concrete plans, they can't just up and not keep them because they don't feel like it. Recognizing and admitting a problem does not make that failing OK. I just feel like so many people are so wrapped up in their own drama that they can't see how their life affects other people. We are not isolated creatures. We are people, part of a culture, that is individualistic enough already. When people depend on us, which for some people (like me) is very difficult to do, we have to recognize that our lives are not only our own. Part of being a good person is being dependable. The following is a disclaimer- those of you who have ever cancelled plans with me, do not think I am sitting over here sticking pins in a doll that looks suspicously like you.
I understand life is complicated and my needs/wants etc. are not the center of the world. This is more about people who make a habit of cancelling and being flaky and being generally self involved. 
