  Review the most five significant relationships you've had in your life, by category: Friends (Jenni Perry) 1. Are you still in the relationship? Yes 2. How has the realationship changed over the years, if at all? -At first we were just friends all about going out. I met Jenni at a transition time in my life, when I was graduating high school and going to college.
Jenni was a friend in Rancho that I could bring back my "new" college persona too and kind of try it out in the non-USC world. In high school, I never really "went out" but this was Jenni's area of expertise. So initally, our relationship was only about just going out and stuff like that. More recently (although, in progress over the years) we've begun talking about things. Life, love, feelings, everday things. But things other than just about what's going on, what we're going to do or what not.
I feel like I can tell her things, vent my emotions, seek her advice. 3. What are or were the specific problems in the relationship? - I'd say first and foremost the reason we probably weren't closer earlier is because of the distance. I never really was friends with Jenni and lived in Rancho for a substantial amount of time. I met her just as I was moving to USC, and we've mostly managed to be friends on my summer and winter vacations, and weekends spent at home.
Next, the fact that Jenni already had a super tight knit of best friends when I met her. Unlike me, she didn't need anyone in the friendship way. She already had best friends, and they were, REALLY tight. Now I would say, though not a huge problem, Jenni is now a mom and is at a completely different stage in her life. She's not worried about the same petty problems that I am, she's got a son to look after. 4.
What are or were the specific positive aspects of the relationship? With Jenni I've learned to tell people my feelings, that people do actually care about me. That friendsthip is possible! Jenni is a fresh alternative to my friends from college. She's level-headed and presents an interesting perspective of the world. Through her I've met people I never thought I would hang out with or even know, tried things I never thought I'd try and just been in a lot of cool and interesting situations.
I guess the one big thing is that she has fueld my open-mindedness and quest for knowledge and what it's like to walk in other's shoes. Boyfriends (Bill McCoy) 1. Are still in the relationship? No 2. How has the relationship changed over the years? N/A 3.
What or were the specific problems in the relationship? Primarily the problem was that we were both looking for different things from a relationship. The timing was all wrong. 4. What were the specific positive aspects of the relationship? We had fun together.
We had great intellectual talks. He made me feel wanted and pretty and worthy. 5. If the relationship ended, why? Be specific. I was upset that he didn't want to commit to me.
That he didn't want to call me his girlfriend. After being together for almost 4 months this really made me upset. But rather than communicate this or even just deal with this on my own, I pretended it didn't matter. So I got drunk with some friends, and made a scene at a bar while we were hanging out. I was really embarassing. When we went back to his apartment I said some really mean and hurtful things to him because I wanted him to feel the pain that he'd inflicted on me.
I just didn't care. He ended it with me saying that he couldn't handle that kind of drama in his life. He found it completely unattractive and wanted nothing to do with me ever. Coworkers (Julie Moffitt) 1. Are you still in the relationship? Yes, even though Julie no longer works with me.
2. How has the relationship changes over the years? Obviously from being strictly working together, to hanging out outside of work, sharing secrets, dreams and fears, to still communicating even though she's now in Wisconsin. 3. What are or were the specific problems in the relationship? Julie is caught up in her own story, as most of us are.
I think that the only problem is that she's really focused on herself, and what's going on with her. This makes it hard to build a strong foundation for a friendship. 4. What are or were the specific positive aspects of the relationship? This! Julie's aura causes me to become self-aware, becuase I've never known a person as self-acutalized as she is.
The positive part of the relationship is that i have someone who I identify with on a spiritual level. Someone else who can share my utter confusion with life and mankind. Someone else who searches out the mysterious answers to life's questions, someone else who even poses those questions to begin with. Someone who I can share the creative side of myself with and feel unashamed. A relationship that is pretty much free from judgement, that's just honest. 
