  When I asked you to listen to me, and you start giving advice, you have not done what i asked. When i asked you to listen and you begin to tell me why i shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings When i asked you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen!! All i asked you was that you listen, not talk or do. Just hear me. Advice is cheap. $0.48 is all I need to get a cigarette to kill myself. And I can do for myself. I'm not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless. When you do something for me that i can and need to do for myself, you are not helping me. You are contributing to my fear and inadequency. But when you accept as a simple fact that i do feel what i feel, no matter how irrational, then i can quit trying to convince you and can get about the business of understanding whats behind this irrational feeling. And when thats clear the answer are obvious and i don't need advice. Irrational feelings make sense when we understands whats behind them.
Perhaps thats why prayer's works sometimes for some people because GOD is mute and HE/SHE doesn't give advice or try to fix things. So please listen and just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn and I'll listen to you. www.movieposters.mypicgallery.com 
