  Nietzsche said "One must want nothing to be different. Not forward, not back, not in all eternity. Not only to bear what is neccesary, but to love it. " In other words, one must embrace the whole of one's fate in order to live as a genuine person.
This entails embracing the good and the bad. It means doing away with thoughts of "if only" and embracing even those things in your life that you wish had turned out differently. Henry Rollins said "Fuck those people who say 'when life gives you lemons, make lemonade! ' I say, when life gives you lemons, say OH YEAH I like lemons, what else you got? " ;-) Bring it on. It is our total experience that makes us who we are. Right view will determine wether you see that as a crutch or a tool. 
