  Master The sharp-eyed among our two loyal readers will have noticed DScussion appearing in our kinky linkage. Carolyn, one of the administrators over there, and a friend of ours, described DScussion thusly: DScussion is a BDSM discussion board, with a heavy emphasis on reality. The board is divided into areas for newcomers; for discussions about play styles, toys and techniques; as well as for "lifestyle" issues.
This is a great place to ask questions, or raise issues that you'd like to discussion with intelligent, reality oriented kinky folk. So get on over there. You will need to register, but you don't give your real name or anything silly like that. You'll see us there, posting as Steve or katy. 
