  I just came across a post on another blog that made me feel really sad. Not sad like I want to cry, but shaking my head "That's too fucking bad" kind of sad.
It was posing questions about women having sex and the status of "easy" being placed on them for this. This is a subject I feel very strongly about, not necessarily for the same reasons as the girl who wrote the post, but for my own personal reasons. Maybe because I was raised in a strict Catholic environment and an equally strict household where sex was taboo and women just didn't do certain things. If you, as a woman, had certain thoughts or feelings you were essentially damned and made to feel awful because those feelings were completely abnormal and wrong for a woman to have. It just wasn't "proper". Or the correct feminine etiquette. So many stigmas follow women around regarding sex.
I am not necessarily speaking of what society would have her labeled as, but rather what she is reared to believe about herself and her sexuality. Too often a woman is made to feel uncomfortable in her own skin. She limits what she wants by what she feels she should do. De-programming what is embedded in us from birth is a long and trying process that many women fail at.
What I speak of has nothing to do with a certain type of woman who has low self-confidence and sleeps around with whomever presents themselves to her in order to try to make herself feel better and just be close to another person - anyone. I'm not talking about the woman who has little to no self-respect. I'm not talking about the type of woman who consistently confuses sex with love. I speak of a woman who is afraid to enjoy sex. Who is afraid to seek pleasure from casual one night stands with someone whom she is attracted to.
Who fears her own sexuality and fears expressing it. We are all animals. We have instincts. Seeking pleasure in whatever form is not a bad thing and I curse at systems of belief (religious or otherwise) who would have us think so, and would have us say "no" when everything in us wants to say "yes". Who would have us apologize for who we are and what we do. Who would have us fear our own sexuality and fear being labeled as "whores" because we indulge in an act that is completely natural with someone whom we may not be in love with.
Who tell us to "suppress" when we should really "express". I curse at them all... 
