  Email from my hda: "C and I had a bit of a fight last night. I had told her I would be home around 4:30 or 5 and she said she would probably not be home until six. She knew I had no meeting with ceo because I already told her. When I got home later she asked where I was and I told her I had a meeting with you, our accountant, which had been arranged after I talked with her. Between that and the volume of e-mails sent by you, she basically said she does not want any communication between us other than professional. That was the fight. She knows I have very few friends, and I was not happy that she does not trust me. She said she does trust me, but based on what she has seen in the volume of e-mails (not content, I delete messages as I read them) she believes that you are "obsessed. " She feels this is a detriment to our marriage, because right or wrong, she feels threatened and it is very troubling to her. She asked that I write and tell you no more communication outside the realm of professional contact.
I told her that if she feels strongly enough to decide who I can be friends with, don't be gutless- write you herself. She plans to do that. She also said she will only do that with my blessing. Not an ultimatum, but for the good of our marriage. We have made too much progress to go back, and most of the progress has been on her part. It is now time for my contribution - your e-mails.
Therefore I gave her "my blessing" to contact you. Since this would mortify you both, I will tell her that I took care of it. Fun and friendly banter in otherwise professional communications is fine, and we can talk at our Friday meetings with ceo. Otherwise - sorry. You are clever and witty with excellent insights. That is why I enjoy most of your e-mails, but in the words of the Underdog narrator 'Looks like this is the end...'" My thinking is that like on Underdog - it is never the end.
But I will stay out of the way. I think he will resent her forcing this and it will not strengthen the marriage, but send it more quickly to the demise it is already set upon. Mostly I think it is a good thing. And I'll channel my "obsessive" writing to my blog instead of him. 
