  Spose about a lot of things. Lot of people I think wonder about the relationship that the three of us must be developing. Hard to explaine and make sense. But I am going to try. First you have to look at the relationship that both Eben and I have with Anna. Thought about it long and hard and boiled it down to a single word. Cherish. Not the sort of cherish like your great aunts china. The sort of cherish where two grown and dominate men can find time and enough in common in order to help someone grow. Anna and Eben are talking about their collaring experiment now. Renegotiating as it were. There have been many triumphs and many minor victories. To my mind nothing has defeated them as a couple, or us as a poly. For my view, I hope that they decide not to have Anna wear the collar full time.
I do hope that they can sit down and calender out a schedual of scene's that are hot and leave Anna the strength to blog about it. (Thats the real reason for the lack of posts lately to my mind. By the time she recovers Eben's ready to swing the flogger again. ) I find myself wrapped up between the two of them, friend and lover to Anna, friend and coconspiritor to Eben, and always acting as D/s Marriage Councilor.
I know that they are both happier than they have been in years despite the ups and downs that they have had in the last few months. Espcially when they remember that their souls are much more fragile to words than their bodies are to a little slap and tickle. Sometimes I think I should step aside and that I am an unfair influence in their lives. Then one or the other will reach out to me, unsure needing advice, or more often someone that will listen. There have been times in the past I have reached out to one or the other for their moral support.
I know members of my family would scowl that I can turn to these people that I have never met. Thats the thing though, I know with out a doubt that I can count on them for a good and nonjudgemental word because that is what I offer as well. Hoping that that makes the sence out of it I feel cause after a long sober time thinking about it thats the best I can come up with. 
