  If someone has a beef with someone else take it to them! Don't let them take it out on you ever. I am going through a situation like this. I am not a doormat I will not coddle or protect abusers of substance or alcohol or just plain mean BS minded people. I was in alanon years ago and I think now is as good as a time as ever to join again. This is why I am a square I cant imagine being mean to people I love,because of a nasty habit. I remember being just a child watching my parents drink and get mean and belligerent with each other or worse us kids. I vowed at 5 years old I remember saying it to myself as I would hide from the screaming of my parents...I said I will never do this when I get older never! I repeated that mantra through life to my parents 10,15,20,etc..To this day I have never had a drink with my parents the other kids have but I have stood my ground, its my way of saying remember what I said. Now as they are older they are great parents! I would have done anything to have had them this way 30 years ago. They didn't drink everyday but it was on occasion, I remember each and every time because of the drama.
I married a man who I thought was square I found out into the first year of marriage, he was a alcoholic and by the second year he was full blown off the wagon plus a drug abuser. One time he woke me up from my sleep yelling and choking me screaming quit calling my mother a whore! I was gasping for air saying please please stop! He did then he broke down and cried saying I don't know what's wrong with me .
I was scared to death of him. The same week I found a little plastic bag of powder I asked someone if they knew what it was and they said this is crystal if your husband is on this and he is attacking you, it will get worse! All I could do was think about what he did at the end of the week it was on a Saturday and he was kissing my ass saying I love you I will do anything for you..Sniffing sniffing the whole time (honey he wasn't crying if you know what I mean) all I could think of was him attacking me and getting away with it and still doing his shit!
We had gotten home and he turned to put a video in for us to watch he was bending over...I snapped! I jumped on his back with all of my weight I pulled him on the ground in a choke hold wrapped my legs around him and said how does it feel to be choked when you don't see it coming?? He was freaked out he started to cry I'm sorry I'm sorry! I let go and I said if you ever have the urge to ever! Hurt me again you better make sure you kill me because what I will do to you will be tenfold Mother FFFFeerrr!
I know I reacted to his level but to be honest I had enough! I was dealing with him pushing me around choking me, ordering me to my room, because he was sure I was taping him for the cops, this is what some tweekers do paranoid behaviors is normal. So If anyone is reading this and you are in a abusive relationship get the hell out! Or get help ASAP!! Anything is better than living in fear. 
