  I have had some private answers to the Dom questions, one of the participants gave me permission to post his answers 1. When did you know you were a dominant? Can’t remember exactly when, but I’ve always loved the films where the heroine is tied up, and Fay Wray is in the clutch of King Kong …”aaaaeeeyyyeee … !” Seeing photo’s and cartoons of bondage and dominance has always aroused me – I always dreamed of being the one in the black top hat and twirly moustache.
It must have been from an early age, as I can recall not knowing what those aching shaky feelings in my stomach meant… then I discovered that if you play with it, it feels good and it goes off in your hand … since then I’ve always been aroused by visual stimuli rather than emotional stimuli – one of my intense addictions in the past, along with tobacco, alcohol, sex, has been porn.
2. Describe your first experience where you felt you exhibited dominant tendencies. Can’t remember. 3. Regarding spanking, flogging, or other forms of corporal punishment, describe in detail what it makes you feel. If you are aroused by it - then why? They make me feel in control, of course, but also responsible. It’s as if I’m entrusted with a great gift. The gift of giving pleasure through pain and I feel, I dunno, on a higher emotional, physical and sensual plane. It also makes me feel worthwhile. I’m also very tender too – I love to serve my play partner.
I guess I feel as if I’ve found the other half of my self. Like I'm where I should be - at home. 4. Regarding physical restraints: Describe what you prefer and why? Too inexperienced to really answer this. 5. If restraints arouse you, do you know why? They do – again, it’s as if I’m being entrusted with something very valuable ( the other persons life in effect! ) and fragile and I find that them handing over their life to my control is very erotic. Also the time spent binding - the slow controlled work - takes me to another place. Perhaps it's the feeling that there is no time, no clocks anymore ... 6. Regarding control: Do you control yourself, others or both? At the moment, I don’t really know … I’ll think more about this. 7. What type of control do you find most effective?
Too inexperienced to really answer this at this stage. 8. What type of control do you find most arousing? See above – I’m working on this. 9. Have you ever done anything for a submissive that you found completely unarousing for you? No – not that I wouldn’t. I feel that I’m taken over by a flow of energy which is all enveloping … like being in a swimming pool. I would be hard pressed to think of anything “unarousing” if I was with someone who had willingly submitted themselves to me.
See 5. 10. Have you ever been a submissive? I tried once but it left me cold. I think the abuse has closed off those feelings so far, and made me stubbornly refuse to serve anyone. Strange, as I would do anything for some people, it just has to be on my terms. Perhaps I am but don't know it, yet! As you can see, the answers are incomplete, but this is really due to the dominants willingness to be thoughtful and honest about his experiences. He has a blog of his own at: urlLink http://my_maelstrom.blogspot.com/ urlLink Read more! 
