  Ok, that was another very lateral title. But what I wanted to discuss, because it has come up as a topic for so many of us, is making someone into a dominant. Is it possible? My experience says no. If someone is just not "wired" that way, you are just going to end up ruining the vanilla relationship you have if you try to force the issue. On the other hand... I have met a number of people who were "hidden" dominants. What I mean by this is: you might know someone a long time and never know that lurking underneath was a Dom/Domme waiting to get out.
Most reasonably intelligent, egalitarian men (I don't know about other sexes - please someone write something on this) have a very hard time admitting that they have dominant feelings. They are horrified of being accused of being sexist or misogynist because they DO like women and they DO believe in equality among the sexes. For that very reason, they are badly conflicted about their desires. And you might have one of those on your hands....
So... how to approach the subject? How do you tempt them to come out of the closet? How do you make them feel safe about acting out their wiring? Safety isn't just an issue for submissives. Any ideas? Comments? Additions? Actually, Urbanstud wrote such an interesting post from an "emerging Dominant's" point of view - it's really worth a read: urlLink Transitions (and the post before it is not half-bad either :-) ) urlLink Read more! 
