  I dont know why she does it to be honest. My mother loves to push people away and has pased on the trait to my father. My parents get in this huge fight with my uncle and won't talk to him for like 3 years. We find out he has cancer and drive down to see him right away. You go to see someone you would not speak to? Ok, ok, he is dying and is family, I can't argue with them for going to see him but man that wall dropped fast.
Different story. My grandmother (mom's side) died when I was young. From what I understand she was a great person but also died of cancer so it was at an age that for the time seemed young. I don't think they have accepted my grandfathers decision to re-marry something like 6-months after her death. I don't blame him, he spent years with someone then there was no one. That would be tough and you would want someone with you, you are used to someone there.
His wife did need to be replaced, not emotionaly but phisicly... why should he suffer for no reason? So my mom hates her... what is it, stepmother? and blames a lot on her. So the woman asks a lot of questions? She is interested with moth people? My mom calls it prying, even if it is, SO WHAT?
She holds this in for like 12 years, keeping her mouth shut anytime she is around her stepmother but vents the whole time she isn't. I don't really like the woman but I don't hate her. She is kind of ditzy but that is fine, I know lots of girls that are a ditz. But a couple months after Gary was dignosed with cancer she lashes out at her stepmother. It was something to the effect of "I hate you Jenny" ok, different words but it had that effect. For like an hour and a half the argued, I sat an watched my mother dig herself deeper into a hole with her father.
First of all they are both wrong in their logic on the situation but my grandfather is not stupid and realized my mother hates his wife at this point. How would you respond to that? I am totally on his side. I think my mother is being an idiot, she saw it take cancer for her and her brother to talk again but she builds another wall right after that one was taken down. What an idiot! I love her though, don't get me wrong, L really get along well with her it is just I have a different outlook on life I guess.
I figure why waste it? I do have a theme today, STOP FIGHTING! My mom constantly complains, all the time. She won't talk to her father even when they are in the same room. Fathers day is this weekend! She was with him for an hour and didn't even say a word!
Life is to short to waste and I would expect my mom and my father who both lost someone important, and are going to lose another important person would understand that! 
