  "SORRY. " 5 letters. 2 syllables. Sometimes it's the ONE WORD people often find difficult to say. to verbalize. to express.
MY BLOG, so MY FEELINGS on the subject... WHY DO WE SAY "SORRY"? Take this scenario. You are walking. You are about to take a turn to get into the nearest bakeshop. Someone whistled and you take a glance back to see who it was. When you looked back straight ahead it was too late to notice this old lady carrying a huge brown bag practically covering her face.
You hit her. Without any question, it was an accident. Unintentional. Your buzzer is pressed. Automatically...you utter... "Oooops! Sorry.
" or "Sorry po. " Most of the time we do things we do without the slightest intention of hurting someone. (You see, i believe that people are eternally good deep down, unless proven otherwise. ) We say things we believe others will either laugh about or think about, nonetheless. Unfortunately, different people have varying standards. What's good and within the norm of social conduct of one is not necessarily the same for another.
Hence, it is inevitable, even with the most careful efforts that we say or do something that pricks on the nerves of a brother, a cousin, a friend or a stranger. INEVITABLE i said. So if you hit someone, you don't go jolting her back to reality by saying, your mind was running a 1000 miles per minute; you're out of load; you forgot; you were watching a movie; you were busy. The last thing that will fill up the shortcoming is REASONING. That comes "secondary" only to saying SORRY. There is ORDER in discipline.
There is order in BREEDING. So dont make that mistake of raising your defenses up by giving a narrative of your "becauses. " Whether it was intentional on your part or not, whether your means are not meant to be offensive in any way, if there is decency in your heart, you acknowledge the pain. Repair the damage and let the healing begin. Whether it involves a physical pain or an emotional injury, a co-human being deserves an apology. SIMPLY PUT.
If the person involves a friend or a loved one, most of all, and she seems to be acting out of reason or "OUT OF CHARACTER" perhaps, you don't just abandon them. Even if her reasons for blowing the whistle is BEYOND your comprehension, say sorry just the same that she feels that way but express your sincerity that you had no intention of causing her to feel that absurd certain way. IS THAT VERY HARD TO DO? I wonder. Saying SORRY doesn't make you GUILTY OF THE VERY CRIME. It can be taken from a multiple-level of interpretation, the base of which is being the simplest truth that you acknowledge the end result.
Someone feels wronged. Saying sorry is dealing with the situation at hand. Someone is hurt so let's at least dust her off and help her recover balance. Saying sorry is an exhibition of remarkable HUMILITY, that you admit that you yourself are just as imperfect as the others are; capable of being offensive be it remotely impossible from the outerbanks of your civilized existence. SORRY is meant to rebuild what was broken. Repair and reassure.
It doesn't make you less of a macho person if you apologize. IT DOESN'T MAKE YOU MORE OF A PERFECT PERSON IF YOU DON'T FIND YOURSELF SAYING IT EITHER. SILENCE isnt being apologetic about any situation. Silence only prolongs the torture, widens the gap. Silence never hushes the issues. SILENCE only covers up the issues.
A wolf in sheep's clothing. The issues will resurface again in the next opportunity and that will take you back to square one. No amount of flowers or chocolates will equate to the power of this very word, "SORRY. " No amount of sugar-coated-pink-cotton-candy talk will make you generally an "afternoon delight" to someone who's been hurt. No other word or act will QUALIFY as an apology. It's just one word but no matter how excessive the bleeding, how big the DEBT, how huge the gap caused, or how hard the blow was, SORRY does the seemingly impossible.
It corrects. It heals. It conquers. 
