  I don't know all of the story on my father. Some of this is just theory. He is a 65 year old man who is stubborn, antagonistic, and unhealthy. I love him just the way he is. However, I want to try to understand where he came from and why he is the way he is. My father was the youngest of 2 children.
His parents were high school sweethearts that married and had my Uncle E. Then 7 years later, they had my dad. My uncle was a sports master to the family. My dad, apparently was just there. My theory on this is my grandfather didn't like kids. He wanted one and one only. He got his boy and raised him up to what he wanted.
Then they had the "miracle baby", my father. This would explain why my father felt his father never appreciated him (like he does with my sister B) and why he is so special to his mother. My father is somewhat of a momma's boy. Now, because he didn't get the love he wanted from his father, he acted out in ways of stealing, eating, and being rude. To say that he has little tact when it comes to talking to his family sometimes is a little bit of an understatement. It is really unbelievable sometimes the things that come out of his mouth.
Can he really think this way? As for the unhealthy part, sadly, part of that is a family history that he can't shake. However, he can take matters into his own hands and do something to prevent and maintain, instead of eating up all the ice cream, taco salad, and whatever else he can. Part of the eating, I am sure is comfort. His mom is a WONDERFUL cook. She doesn't cook anymore, but when she did....DAMN it was good.
Since his mother loves him so much, and seriously is one of those women that shoved food in your face, I think he associates food with her love. As a consequence to the gluttony, he has had numerous health issues, including diabetes and a heart attack. He also has lung cancer from smoking for 30+ years, and that turned into a brain tumor they found in September 2002. Despite all this, he is still around. This is just a way of giving myself therapy, trying to figure out the people who raised me and learn how I came to be through who they are. More to follow. 
