  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; I learn best by doing things myself and knowing what they are like. If I do not do things for myself, I will always wonder what the harm is in them. I have not lead a wild life full of drugs and parties, but I have had my own struggles with my inner self and the need to experience life on my own.
At the age of 18 I promptly moved out of my parent’s house to a town that was 3 hours away. In this town I was only knew two people. One was my ex boyfriend and the other was a “family friend.” I moved in with the family friend who allowed me to stay out all night and do whatever I pleased.
I smoked, did some drinking, and experimented with many other aspects of life. In retaliation to my strict upbringing, I got my nose, tongue, eyebrow, and inner ear pierced, along with multiple tattoos. Through the years, from these experiences, I know that I don’t need my piercing to express myself, my tattoos remind me or my experiences, and I know that I am okay with who I am. I don’t feel that I would be as sure of myself without experiencing these things. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; My husband on the other hand, has learned a lot of his lessons through taking example from his sisters “rough” life.
Through seeing her do the things that she has done such as drugs, alcohol, and partying, he decided that those things in life were really not that important. He is what I refer to at “straight laced.” He tell me that I am the kind of person who has to touch a hot pan to make sure that it is hot even if someone tells me it will burn. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; There are many things to be learned from others, and many to be learned by trying things out for oneself.
Not everyone is as lucky as I was to be able to stop my destructive life and learn from it. However, when I look at my husband’s life, I think that some people would be bored with it. Some people end up ruining there lives by testing the hot pan as I have and would have been better off to learn from others experiences. 
