  I was just talking to a friend in the office down the hall about her first meeting with a new therapist.
She asked if I knew anything about him, but I didn't. I do like the therapist that I am with now, but one that I have had through the same HMO was terrible. Four years ago I was ending a long term relationship with a sculptor named Franz. I felt terrible about ending things with Franz because I still loved him (still do, which is probably why I am destined to remain single), but I just didn't think we were good for each other anymore.
Every time I met with the therapist he would ask me if I was a virgin. Every single time! As if I could somehow regain my virginity* in between sessions. I thought that was kind of odd, but at the same time I sort of liked that someone saw me as "innocent. " I didn't mind that the therapist was kind of quirky in his approach. After I told him that I really prefered neurotic people he told me that I was a woman after his own heart.
I have to admit to being flattered. He finally crossed the line in the therapy session before I broke up with Franz. He asked me if I had thought about exactly how I was going to do the breaking up. I hadn't come up with a specific plan yet. He said, "Well, are you gonna break up with him, or are you going to fuck him and then break up with him.
" I told him that I hadn't thought about that. Then I pretended I was no longer in the room. Anyway, when you are shopping around for a therapist, I really think it is important to ask right of the bat if he/she intends to sexually harrass you. * Apparently one way to regain your virginity is through dentistry. When I had my first cavity filled the other day, the dental assistant announced, "Well, looks like we've got a virgin!
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