  I have a very strong belief that violence is completely pointless and unnecessary. Okay sure, there comes times in ones life where you have the urge to punch someone in the face so you did. But what did you accomplish exactly? Yes, you had your 10 second satisfaction and you have a laugh or two about it, but now you have an enemy an enemy for life and a bunch of other people (the persons friends) who also despise you, and you most likely don't even know them. Violence is ending no hate just making it worse. It is completely natural for a human to go strait towards competition when a need of thiers is not being meet (like animals) but people don't realize they have other choices. So as one of Wagners mediators I will share with you these choices ... your first choice and most obvious choice is to walk away. You probably walk away from problems on a daily basis for example someone accidentally walks into you, most likely you'll let it go and for get about it the next day, MOST people wouldn't start a fight for something so ridiculous, but sad to say there are people in the world who would. Walking away is used for minute problems things you would probably forget the next morning. Although walking away is a fair choice it has is cons like everything else in the world. If you are constantly made fun of and continue to walk away from this problem you could learn you hate yourself and when you hate yourself you could do something stupid like hurt yourself. another con is that if you are constantly frustrated and you continue to hold it all inside one day you could find yourself flipping out on someone who isn't even involved with the situation in which angered you.
The last con and probably most obvious is that people will see you as an easy target. Fortunately you do have more choices. Your second choice is to confront the person and as a mediator I don't suggest it. Confronting the person is when you express yourself angrily which usually would lead into an argument maybe even an actual fight. Your last choice is to talk it out which is your best choice. Talking it out is different from confronting because when you talk it out your not only expressing your point of view your learning the other persons as well (your own little mediation). When you talk it out your usually able to work something out. 99% of the time talking it out works, mostly depending on how you say it. Another lesson lol, the way you speak to people about a problem either with an "I message" or a "you message".
When people are angry and frustrated they usually use the "you message" which is placing all the blame on the other person and putting them in a defense mode. For example "You're so annoying. All you do is complain and you drive me crazy from it! " See now wouldn't you be mad if I were to speak to you like that?
The other way the "I message" is placing the blame on yourself so the person your speaking to will listen and take an understanding "Listen (name), I sometimes feel that you complain a lot, and I would really appreciate it if you could please stop" wasn't that understanding? Well, I know I can only do so much to stop violence, I wish I could change the world but unfortunately I'm not the president (Not yet anyway). We need more presidents like Ronald regan! If anyone has a comment or something they'd like to ask regarding my feelings for nonviolence please do, I have so much more to say and things to teach but so little time!!
heres some strong statements that the mediators and I spoke when we were at the United Nations (The first paragraph was my statement)-- There is nothing more dangerous then to build a society with a large segment of people in that society who feel they have no steak in it, who feel they have nothing to loose. People who do have a steak in their society protect that society but when they don't they unconsciously want to destroy it. YOU CAN BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE FUTURE, YOUR FUTURE (if one exists) depends on what you do in the present. The weak can never forgive. The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort or convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. AN EYE FOR AN EYE JUST MAKES THE WHOLE WORLD BLIND. 
