  PAIN IN PRIVATE Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something. -- urlLink The Princess Bride Of all ways, the easiest way to deal with problems is not to deal with them at all.
If we ignore them, we don't have to worry about suffering their pain. And life is pain. It says so in the motion picture, "The Princess Bride. " One specific way of not dealing with problems is to cut out of our lives the people who we see as causing us pain.
You'd think that by adulthood, most would have outgrown this "take my ball and go home" philosophy, but no. Many don't put it away as a childish answer to an adult dilemna because isolation is so effective. In the short-term, not communicating does exactly what we want it to. With isolation in our toolbox, we don't have to face the things that trouble us. Out of sight, out of mind. Adults don't use isolation, because adults have a longer experience with time. They know that troubles put away today cannot long be hidden. Children think they can accidentally start a fire and hide in the closet until it goes away.
Adults don't. Sadly, there are many such children in adult's bodies. Only if two people are able to talk to eachother are they able to resolve their differences and put out the fires at hand. Cut off the communication, go into isolation, and the fire will grow until it burns down the house. Out of sight, out of mind, but not out of existence. 
