  "It is ony after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything. " -Like that person who made life seem worth living, who brightened every day for years until a blow-by-blow confession of horrendus sexual depictions and disloyal procedure sends shooting pain throughout your body and sinks the life- pumping-organ into shock and depraved convulsions. Like the people who battled with you everyday and accompanied you through your most elating and disgusting experiences killing themselves, overdosing, being murdered or simply becoming so vulturous that mere contact is intolerable. Or quite possibly the comfort found in a mothers touch through years of suffering, vomiting and torterous hospitalizations becoming suddenly distant until it is nonexistant and you only have the nervous twich and the screaming vocal punishments of a substitute to ease the pain. Perhaps it is the dependance upon chemical numbness which has so lengthily created a tolerable existence becoming obsolete and over-destructive. Maybe after the delusional dreams of youth which permeate every realistic endeavor are finally realized to be absurd. Or every home-away -from-home, custom made to escape the realm of negative perception, fades into a wasteland of hatred and stupidity.
When institiutions no longer, protect or incarcerate or manufacture a sense or normality. It is only after the loss of those, among many other things, that I am free to do anything. Free to encompass myself with talented, well-directed people. Free to run. Free to quit school and join the circus. Free to dance and sing and so many of the things that others are limited from by fear, embarrassment or material constraint. Free to appreciate the last years of the family I have left. Free to, one day, really connect with a woman in a spiritual manner and discover the euphoria of unity. It is only with a feeling of complete hopelessness that divine possibility unfolds for me every second. When comfort is not an option the only way is up and I live every day like it's my mutherfuckin last one.
So many analyze and bitch about the most trivial of problems so frequently that nausea deepens in me. It's time to go back to our roots. Technology and distraction have robbed us of our right to experience more primal interactions. If Tyler durden had not blown up his condo he would've never attained enlightment. The purpose was to become life, not the perpetual search for materialism. While at present, material posessions are abound, they are and have always been an unnessary stimulus for the soul. Given the depletion of necessary nourishment which grants a human to flourish, physical luxuries are frequently disposed of and or ignored. "It is only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything" is just one of the "Durdenisms" that become very inspiring after everything goes wrong or circumstances are unbearable.
"You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake, you are the same decaying organic matter as everything else, all part of the same compost heap. " That is another universal truth that puts into perspective the utter predictability and irrelevance of the universe. Quite often when nirvana isn't acheived, it is useful to discover peace in fatality. "Stop being perfect and let the chips just fall where they may. " "You are not your job. You are not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive. You are not the contents of your wallet... You're not your fuckin khakis. " How incredibly those obvious facts facilitate the true essence of life. But that's just Tylers view. Thats what you use as an after effect. When you are about to engage a situation, no matter what the circumstance, Tony Montana is the source of inspiration with which best to enter.
"Me, I want whats coming to me... the world, chico... and everything in it. " Especially considering the context of the character: broke, bottom rung criminal refugee with no education, freshly shipped to the United States, with nothing to look foreward to but death or incarcaration, one can gain an incredible sense of empowerment from Scarface. "First you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the woman. " -a formal plan for success. "I bury those cock-a-roaches! " -as far as mantras go, it's about as good as you can get for aggressive and optimistic positive affirmation. "I eat that fucka for breakfast.. shut that fucka down. " -also attains the desired effect. "Wanna go to war!? " quite frequently amps the adrenaline to an appropriate level so that maximum performance is achieved for a job, school, courtship, feud, fight, or any endeavor. Although not verballed by Tony, this statement was made to him as he was losing touch with his own philosphy: "Every day above ground is a good day. " -cannot be reiterated enough, we only get ONE shot at this so lighten the fuck up and cherish every minute. 
