  I've always wanted children but never felt the undying need to pro-create. Although the thought of being preggers, watching your belly grow, feeling the baby kick, waiting for an exciting arrival for 9 months, sounds great. But for some reason, I've never felt the NEED to have a "mini me" running around. I've always thought adoption was a great idea, from a very young age.
And I always said that if my partner insisted on making a baby of our own, I'd also love to fill our home with adopted kids too. But it's a interesting topic, don't ya think? Thousands, if not millions, of couples spend tons of buckaroos trying to make a baby of their own. They MUST have a kid that has her eyes, maybe his artistic talent, hopefully her long legs. Yet there are thousands of children in this country that don't have homes and are awaiting adoption. Well, they might have a dwelling in which they sleep but they're hardly homes. And most importantly, they aren't viable, safe options for these kids. So these couples try everything from petri dishes to turkey baisters, trying to make their own. And if they succeed, they are thrilled and call it their "miracle" baby. If their luck runs out, they shop for a kid online, calling prestigious adoption agencies to find a cute, anglo child from the Ukraine who needs a warm home and family to come home to. Maybe they go out on a limb and think of adopting a child from China. But what about the kids here? Well, most of those kids are black. And a whole lot of them come from disadvantaged homes with a whole lotta baggage.
And really, it's o.k. to have a pristine Asian child that's not "yours". But a BLACK child? Oh heavenforbid! So my issue is this. Why are people so narcissistic and insist on making their own baby? Secondly, why do couples, upon fertility options failing, go baby shopping in other countries? Why are black babies that unappealing in this country? Many couples want babies and most of the black children in foster care in the US are 6-13 year olds.
Well, what exactly is a family? What are you looking for? I just have issues with people who are that selfish, that righteous, that bigoted. Maybe I will have babies of my own. Maybe I'll add some that didn't come out of my womb. I know this much - I'm gonna make a great mom, labor pains or not! 
